Posted by Pritzker on October 10, 2000, at 21:57:33
In reply to Re: Medical fantasies and the cute Dr.H, posted by allisonm on October 10, 2000, at 21:30:38
> Thank you Allisonm. Your response, combined with Marx's is pretty much what I expected. Which is why I never voiced it until now, under these particular circumstances. But it is a bit of relief to see it in written words rather than have them buried in my nagging mind. Although, I still have to admit, it is a bit scary (not offending) to read it from another person.
Cordially,
LeiJust some observations and opinions. You asked for feedback. I do not intend to offend.
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> If the people at the clinic are the professionals you say they are, then you will never have a social or collegial relationship with any of them. You are wasting your time. Have you any other interests besides following these people around campus and calling them at home? If you want to be a professional, this is not the way to begin.
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> I have fantasized about my psychiatrist. I have put him on a pedestal. I have kept the thought of him in my head as a source of comfort when trying to get through difficult moments. From what I have read, I believe this is normal. However, you seem to have carried this to the entire clinic -- putting the entire staff on some pedestal. It is too much.
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> You mention how medicine is such a noble cause, but from the sound of your post you seem more enamored with being a doctor and being among people with status than with helping anyone. I think you should consider another profession. When you get older, job status becomes much less important than it is for twentysomethings. Then you will be left with just your work. If you didn't love it to begin with, if you only got into it for status, you are bound to be disappointed when you mature.
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> It is regrettable that you feel above your fellow students. I suspect that you are missing out on a lot. I would suggest that you need to find other activities besides fixating on the clinic staff. I would suggest that you need a more balanced life with a variety of interests.
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> The attitude that you apparently have about people who are not professionals seems to be inhibiting your ability to socialize and identify with other people of your age and status. If you were to become a doctor, what of your patients? What will you think of them? How will you connect with patients if you cannot connect with non-professional people now? Could you feel and show compassion if you have no respect for them? If you were a patient, you would you want a doctor with your cuurrent attitude attending to you?
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> Finally, I think you should consider medication because from the sound of your post I don't think therapy is doing enough. Wanting to go into psychiatry yet thinking that your own mental fortitude will pull you through depression etc. seems (to me at least) arrogant and shows a disbelief in the very profession you want to explore.
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> Best regards.
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