Posted by shar on October 3, 2000, at 20:19:40
In reply to Re: when life throws you a curve, posted by Nibor on October 2, 2000, at 23:27:15
Jena--
So glad to hear from you! I've been thinking about you.One thing that may possibly help is to be very aware of "where you go" once this has happened. Usually, if something is awful, and we are in the present time, we feel awful, we may cry, we may get afraid. None of those Feelings will damage you.
Too often, though, we go somewhere else. We have a feeling and then make a prediction of what it means, what's going to happen, etc. Or, we may go back to some event that was traumatic to us and then get hopeless that it will never end, etc.
The trick is to stay in the present where it feels really crappy. This is my humble opinion. Although it feels crappy, that's where you are. You don't have to change it, you don't have to "get out of the mood" or whatever.
Unless you are seriously concerned about hurting yourself, then you need to call a counselor or go to the ER.
I think things that are distracting are good. They don't even have to be fun. Even just getting out of the house can be good, go to a store, or window shopping or people watching; talking to a friend can be a great help even if you aren't talking about what's bothering you. But will that take the feeling crappy away 100% ? Probably not.
The feeling will go away, though, and in the meantime, like the others have said, try to do something else. You will come around if you give yourself a chance.
Good luck,
Shar
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