Posted by Cindy W on September 2, 2000, at 22:02:20
In reply to Re: real life instruction manual?, posted by Cass on September 2, 2000, at 16:22:21
> Cindy,
> I am so sorry to hear about all this. I know we have similar backgrounds that were full of emotional abuse. My mother also developed cancer when I was an adult. I can tell you that despite the emotional distance, the vulnerable state your mother is in may decrease some of her defensiveness making things easier for you. Her condition may not make you close, but it may be easier to talk to her. I hope so. My mother and I did not resolve crucial issues, but she was as vulnerable as a child, and I think that for once she appreciated me a little bit. I think she was forced to have faith in me, something she had always refused to do. As for your pets, can you buy some of those feeders that drip water out little by little or dole out the food that way? I know how fears can pop up and overwhelm a person during stressful times, but remember that the odds are against your getting into another accident. I truly hope that somehow something good comes out of all of this. Remember to take good care of yourself, too. Don't forget about your own health.
> Good luck, Cindy. Take care.
> Cass
Cass, thank you for your support! Your post means a lot to me, since I think we do have similar backgrounds full of emotional abuse. I'm still afraid to even tell my parents "I love you" except in writing; we never tell each other that verbally, on the phone or in person. That makes all this extra hard. --Cindy W
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