Posted by Joan797 on July 27, 2006, at 8:20:59
In reply to I'm trying the online dating thing again, posted by Deneb on July 13, 2006, at 17:24:01
I am married, but I met and fell in love with someone online. He lived 1000 miles away. After a few months I told him I could talk to him anymore because I was in love with him and since I was married and not able to leave my current situation I had to end it. After begging and begging on his part to continue the "affair" I did continue it. I found that talking to someone online, or on the phone gave insight into who that person really was. After 3 1/2 years we finally met. I sent him money to come see me. Yes, we had sex, yes it was beautiful for me, yes I was more in love than ever. Yes, I was finally ready to move out and get a divorce. After he went back home, immediately after, he was less available on the phone. Within 4 weeks he had added his picture on his online profile, and updated his information. As if he was shopping again. Soon the calls stopped, the online messages stopped and I didn't hear from him for months. Eventually, I found out (the hard way) that he had moved a woman into his home weeks after he was with me. According to him, after meeting me, he realized that "he would never have me" which is bull sh*t. I have talked to his live in a few times and found out that I was not the only one. There were others that were promissed the moon, others besides me. Others who fell for pretty words, etc.
I guess I told you that, to tell you this.
People can present themselves any way they want to. Online and in person. But it seems that online is such an easy way to be "beautiful, wonderful, loving" and it's not always the real person.If you met someone at the grocery store, work, or a club........you have a chance to get a first impression that might be more realistic than a first meeting online.
However, my mom always said that my dad didn't turn into an *sshole until after they were married.
Anyway, think about what you want and need. Do what's right for you.
Joan
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