Posted by llrrrpp on June 21, 2006, at 7:47:32
In reply to I don't deserve love! Stop it!, posted by curtm on June 20, 2006, at 23:01:41
Curt,
I am so sorry. Have you ever asked her to do any relationship counseling with you? It's really frustrating when we try so hard for so long to change someone's behavior. We use common sense, we use our psychology tricks, and they still won't come around. Sometimes it helps to get a neutral 3rd party to break through some of the walls that we build around each other.Don't give up on her yet. You still care about her. That's why it hurts to bad. It sounds like you are having communication conflicts. not understanding the other. I don't think that the problem can be reduced to just one side or another. It's something that has developed over time. I'm sorry that you feel like you're getting all the blame, because one person can never cause *all* the problems in a relationship.
Hang in there curt. Get support from p-babble if she is not yet ready to help you out. That's what we're here for. :)
Is this one of those times when it might help to hear (((poor curt))) and get a hug? I'm sorry you're struggling so much.
your friend,
-ll
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