Posted by tampagirl70 on January 7, 2005, at 17:16:53
In reply to Re: How do you cure Marriage Boredom? » tampagirl70, posted by Shortelise on January 7, 2005, at 12:58:21
I think its just boredom with the relationship in general. I'm not very interested in sex and its not because I don't enjoy it or its not good; I just don't see it as a priority. We've been together for 12 years, no kids, so it feels like things have become rather stagnant. We do things together every weekend and see our own friends and do things separately as well. I obsess a lot (have OCD) and I'm obsessing about the marriage being over, being a sham, that I don't belong in it, etc., so that makes things even worse. And when I'm not interested in sex, it makes it 100 more times worse because then I think that because I don't want to have sex with him, I must not love him. The biggest issue is that I miss the newness and excitement of a new relationship. It'll never be like that again.
I've heard of these couples and people that have good sex - maybe its because they're not married and/or they haevn't been with their partner for very long and its still new and exciting.
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