Posted by Glydin on December 27, 2004, at 23:51:38
In reply to letting others in..., posted by missamor on December 27, 2004, at 17:59:24
> do you think it is possible to have a loving, honest relationship when one deals with this type of problems (me) and does not wnat to address them with s/o.
~~~If you are looking at this being a long term "this is it" relationship and it sounds like you are... my thoughts are ---- problems, yours and his, make up who you are as individuals and you do have to be honest about those things. I understand your concerns and it's so very scary to share and be open about things we do not care to share and be open about sometimes even with ourselves, but I feel it's pretty essential to fostering trust - which, I think is essential to a workable blending of lives. Many challenges come during any long term relationship, but truthful, understanding communication can see you though a great deal of what life throws our way.
I've been married for 23 years if that adds any weight to what I've written.
I'm happy for you and if it's right, acceptance on both your parts will happen. We all have challenging parts to us and loving support can be a big healer, too. If you can secure that, it's a great thing. I hope it works out for you.
Glydin
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