Posted by gardenergirl on November 30, 2004, at 9:32:41
In reply to Re: Wow! I said it!, posted by sunny10 on November 30, 2004, at 8:16:00
Well, I have no experience or training in family counseling...couldn't work that elective in, unfortunately. But certainly, family counseling has a lot of benefits.
As far as getting stuff off of your chest and the "blame game"...well, in my own individual therapy, as well as what I've done with the clients I've seen, I don't worry so much about blame. I deal with feelings. So if you feel angry, upset, hurt, resentment, etc., it's healthy to express that in a safe environment. It's an authentic feeling, so expressing it versus suppressing or repressing it is good. However, expressing the feeling and linking it to a memory or event does not mean that the feeling was *caused* by such. They are associated, but our feelings are our own. I guess that is as far as I might get in worrying about blame...challenging someone to own and express the feeling versus focusing on the externals.
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