Posted by just plain jane on November 27, 2004, at 20:06:54
In reply to Re: Cheaters Never Win, posted by partlycloudy on November 27, 2004, at 14:07:28
does not necessarily mean leaving it behind or forgetting it.
Everything that hurts leaves a scar; physical or psychological/emotional.
"Letting it go", to me, is when/where I finally grasp the fact that I cannot undo, change, or fix something that hurt and I let go of that hope.
It is only then that I slowly feel the pain receding, feel the wound healing over, learn to look at the scar and appreciate that I can and will retain some of that which it now only represents. That I will always feel and remember. Remember the goodness of the experience before the wound.
Sometimes I still cry over decades-old scars. I have let the incident go, accepted that things are now as they are, but will always hold in my heart/soul/psyche the intense feelings, the depth of the wound.
I am glad I can feel. Sometimes I think how awful it must be to be shallow, to be devoid of or lacking depth of feelings, no sympathy, no empathy, nothing.
But then I remember that people who are that way have no idea what they are missing, because they are that way and cannot grasp it, even should they be told.
just me
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