Posted by Susan47 on November 22, 2004, at 11:15:46
In reply to please..., posted by asya on November 22, 2004, at 10:20:27
asya, I'm forty-seven and I fell in love for the first time in my life this year, but I never so much as did more than shake the man's hand, HOWEVER, I can tell you this from experience. Give it lots of time and don't kiss or cuddle until you feel like he's very very desirable. It takes a lot of time to feel that way about someone, and it takes a lot of RESPECT too, and a lot of knowledge (and transference, too, transference isn't always the monster it's built up to be). In my humble opinion, sweetie. I've been known to be wrong, but I also know that now (i) I respect myself and am capable of respecting another in the same way, and therefore (ii) loving him as I love myself, with all my faults.
Don't go fast, and if you don't feel like good-nights have been said too soon, then it's not right.
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