Posted by rskontos on October 8, 2014, at 22:39:54
In reply to Re: MIA but back now...Triggers!Possible » rskontos, posted by Twinleaf on October 4, 2014, at 9:23:00
> Your recounting of your childhood makes it so clear how very traumatizing it was. And then there were retraumatizing factors in your adult life when love, support and understanding would have been crucial. But there are so many strong points all the way through - as you say, the loving parenting, constructive problem-solving, education and your successful quest to get therapy which would truly help. If I were a therapist, I would definitely want a client with the strengths you have! I do hope the future goes well, and that you have increasing times of joy and self-confidence. But, there's no question - it's a long , hard road.
*******It is definitely a hard road. The hard thing is the retraumatizing by husband and in-laws I dissociated and only remembered when my son and daughter confronted their father about it. He of course remembers but tried to denial its harshness. And the effects on all of us. We are trying to work through it but I am not sure what will happen. He is trying....but
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> It has seemed to me that the people who truly do better long- term are the ones who find helpful therapists. Something wonderful happens in our brains - perhaps only a small change - which no medication can ever replicate. It's not that all problems are solved, or that life becomes easy but it seems as if we become more like children who have been understood and loved, and so can find our way more successfully through whatever life brings. I guess that is why I would love to see this part of Babble regain a bit of life!I have been fortunate in two of my therapists. One therapist the first one actually traumatized me by saying if I gave it all up to God I would get well. The god card because I dissociated so badly on her I think she was overwhelmed. Despite her saying she had experience with this. I came back in a corner sobbing uncontrollably talking like a little girl. After that it was downhill, I would switch the minute I walked into that church were her office was. Bad bad time. I was so switchy that I rarely remembered driving to and from her office. I spoke in different voices I never heard it was awful. That is why Dr S my psychotherapist took me on, it upset him how badly she treated me. Luckily he helped me wit that and so much more. And my current T is so good. I stopped dissociate for the most part prior to my appt. Sometimes I dissociate with her but she knows and we work through it. Figuring out why and usually it is connected to the topic under discussion.
I hope we can revive Babble too. Of course me taking so long to respond doesn't help but we had major discussions going on here at home. With husband and son.
thank so much already being here has helped.
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