Posted by baseball55 on September 19, 2013, at 19:43:09
In reply to Re: PS to Need Opinions/Is this working posts » alexandra_k, posted by winsome on September 15, 2013, at 0:10:41
It's interesting you worry whether he's "just doing for the money." It's hard to process sometimes, but this is a professional relationship. This is his job. He's not going to do it if he doesn't get paid. I am a teacher and I love my job and love my students. But I also expect money to be deposited in my bank every two weeks. He has expenses - insurance, phone, office, mortgage payments, etc -- and he can't, anymore than you or I can, work for free. So yeah. He is doing this for the money. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love his job and care about his patients.
I once said to my T (who is also a p-doc by the way. There are lots of p-docs in Boston who also do therapy) that he didn't really care about me because he wouldn't see me if I couldn't pay him. He said if I lost my job and couldn't pay, he'd still see me and we would figure out how much I could afford to pay. Maybe only 10 or 20 a week. I was so touched by this. But we had a really intense relationship and I was completely attached to him. He knew that switching to another therapist would be almost unbearably painful to me. Plus, I think he has family money.
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