Posted by Solstice on October 9, 2011, at 18:15:08
In reply to Re: Embracing the pernicious inner voice » Solstice, posted by annierose on October 9, 2011, at 16:51:45
> I agree ... that is feeling deeply cared for. And I do feel cared by and even loved (at times) by my t (in an appropriate use of the word love). She would say I go in kicking and screaming half the time (not by actions, just an unwillingness to be vulnerable). I think I do have care and need intertwined as well ... I'll have to give this more thought.
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> I will say - overtime - I do feel more and more loving feelings towards my therapist and from her. Which is a huge shift for me in my work with her.You know, one of the things I didn't think about when I originally posted in this thread, is that some of us lean toward being more 'feelers' and others of us lean toward being more 'thinkers.' That may also factor into how cared for we feel, in comparison to how much we care. I recently had to take some of those tests that assess your personality, leadership style, coping mechanisms, etc. I discussed it with my T, and the Myers Briggs came up. I am an INTJ, which is more of a 'thinker' than a 'feeler.' I don't remember all of my T's letters, but I do remember that "F" was the 3rd one, so my T is more of a 'feeler.' I'll bet that plays a role in why I feel so much cared for, a lower amount satisfies me or something. If I were more of a 'feeler' I might feel a bigger gap.. probably especially if my T was a thinker.
> How long have you been seeing your therapist? In this current go-around, I am approaching year 8 - so hard to believe - where did all the time go?I have been seeing my current T about 4 years now.. and the toxic T before that was about 4 years as well.
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