Posted by Lam22 on September 15, 2011, at 20:50:05
In reply to Re: I suspect child abuse » Lam22, posted by sassyfrancesca on September 15, 2011, at 13:22:36
Thanks for your post!
I LOVE alice miller. I have read "Free from lies" and currently read Banished knowledge. Very good read and she is using a lot of good vocabulary for me to learn:)
Well the guy is 8 years old.. and german/persian. There really should be books for kids in dysfunctional families, not only for adults who grew up in such. That may be something i want to get into!
Whats the name of your book? If you can't post it here pls babble mail me.
The book that saved your life... and your a Alice Miller fan + wrote a book endorsed by her.. It will be in my mail soon :D
Very impressive i wish id find a counselor like you! The search for the right therapist is kinda frustrating.
I am very thankful though for the advice i got in "free from lies". At least i don't waste my time with the wrong person and thanks to her i will not get additional harm from mental health professionals anymore.Im trying to reach out to him.. will see how it goes. I don't have a lot of practice with children as they used to make me very uncomfortable and still do to some extent. I didn't find that particular key in my history yet.
I think it was good for him to have someone reassure with his grade although his father chided him for it and i texted him and offered my support if he needs anything. Its a start..Its not easy to get him to talk about the topic and i think its not easy to talk to him about it without making him freak, either.
It should be very non-pushy and empathetic.. guess kinda like a good therapist
> I would immediately get him the book which saved my life : The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans (I am also a counselor in training), and a collegue of mine gives the book out in his practice, constantly....or you could go over it with him and help him understand that someone else's behavior has nothing to do with him; that this "father" is angry over stuff in his past. As children, that is hard to understand.
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> Alice Miller was an amazing woman and author; I quoted her in a paper of mine and she (humbling to me) is an endorser of my book.
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> I had a helping witness......all you can do is listen to him, and validate his thoughts and feelings ...that is so important; especially to a child; to know his thoughts and feelings are heard and even moreso, someone cares.
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