Posted by pegasus on September 2, 2011, at 10:37:51
In reply to Re: aging issues in and out of therapy » pegasus, posted by Dinah on September 1, 2011, at 8:07:35
No worries about being negative. It's helpful to hear what comes up for different people when they're handling it well, and when they're not. Because I'm having those up and down days with it myself.
Today I feel matronly, dumpy, and not at all sexy or attractive. 50 feels like a big number, and I know it only gets bigger from there. I'm glad to be living that long . . . and I'm really challenged by the changes that go along with that. And the lack of support for the way I'm trying to come to terms with it.
I've tried out my idea that maybe accepting the visible signs of aging can be a form of valuable personal growth, on a couple of people recently. They were more or less shocked (and not in a good way) at the idea of not doing everything one can to look younger. They were very against leaving nature alone (in terms of anti-wrinkle potions, etc.) and instead accepting the increasing wrinkles and jowls etc. as part of that stage of life. Which was profoundly disappointing to me. But what do I expect in this youth obsessed culture?
Then, the other day I dressed up rather smartly for work, and during the day my husband had to stop by to get something from me. As I met him, he got all flustered, and distracted, and later he told me it was because I looked so good, he completely forgot what he was there to do. So, I guess I still have some modicum of sexy attractiveness left. At least in his eyes. ;)
So, I go back and forth, wanting to be younger, and wanting to accept being older. All perspectives, in all directions, from others are helpful around this.
- Peg
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