Posted by pegasus on August 22, 2011, at 9:44:21
In reply to Re: aging issues in and out of therapy, posted by Daisym on August 20, 2011, at 13:19:28
I wish I had your therapist. :) He gets it right so often.
I know now that I'll have to bring it up. As you said, talking about it will probably help. And I trust him to be soooo careful about the minefield this is. Maybe if we're just very open about what feels awkward, and what we're avoiding talking about and why, it will be a bit easier.
Sigh. Sometimes just every day life is so hard, even when it's going along normally, isn't it?
It is interesting the professional transition as you age. Yes, there is more pressure, and some of my younger coworkers think they're as good as I am at things that they really need a lot more experience at to be at my level. It's maybe the one area where being older can be helpful, even if that's not always recognized by others. I'm so much better at everything I do at work than I was 10 or 20 years ago. And I know that some people value my experience and do rely upon me as someone with a high level of expertise and competence. I like that a lot.
Dressing is a tricky area. I'm not sure I know how to dress. I think I tend to dress younger than some my age, and I think I'm relatively stylish in terms of current fashion (this may be denial). I'm not sure whether that comes off as a positive youthful attitude, or as a crazy old lady who think she's still 20. I try to choose clothes that are professional and flattering, at least.
I did have a chat with my T once about the difference between dumpy and frumpy. I see myself as dumpy, but not frumpy. He thought they were the same thing. Which doesn't bode well for him understanding all of my issues. But I trust him to really try. ;)
- P
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