Posted by Dinah on March 24, 2011, at 8:10:25
In reply to I withdraw my previous post » toetapper, posted by toetapper on March 23, 2011, at 22:44:34
It may *feel* as if you offended all. But you didn't. Clearly you offended some. But that happens in life sometimes. It doesn't mean you shouldn't share your thoughts. Unless I read too quickly, I didn't see you as being disrespectful of those who thought differently.
I suppose there are times, particularly between people who have a long relationship, to have private conversations in a public discourse, to try to ease misunderstandings. But it's my general rule not to say something negative in email that couldn't be said in public, particularly if I don't have an off board relationship with someone. I know it's done frequently elsewhere, so it might just be a way of thinking that I haven't been exposed to.
But the problem with taking private communications as the entire truth is that it can't be the *entire* truth because it isn't open to public comment, and therefore there is no ability for the world at large to refute or confirm.
So please don't withdraw your comments. It might be gracious to say you're sorry if you offended anyone. Or that you recognize that these are your thoughts and are your truth, but that others may have their own truths. But please don't withdraw your comments entirely.
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