Posted by 64Bowtie on February 13, 2011, at 5:12:58
In reply to Re: Being 'ENOUGH' » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on February 2, 2011, at 20:08:18
Dear » ((( Dinah ))) »
I choose to comment on your points of interest...
> Enough? Not enough? Who's to judge.
<<< No one else notices if we don't feel whole, completely competent, enough...
> What is, is. I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam.
<<< Never has happened yet... Your thousands of posts all/each have a difference to them... You go to therapy as some sort of insurance that you won't have to be this "you" for the rest of your life... For my money, I like this "you", I liked the old you I met 8 years ago, and I'm certain I'll like the "you" that you become 10 years from now... These are different "you-s"...> It's enough because it *is*. No point worrying about what *isn't*.
<<<I really have snagged a loose cord in your giddy-yap... You never have come out swinging like this before... Over a 1 year period, I helped interview 720 new arrivals to a residential rehab known as the Salvation Army Adult Rehab Center... The one universal trait that each person arrived with is this feeling of inconsolable dread, that is shame based and leaves them tarnished to a toxic level... Alcohol, drugs, gambling, eating, and sex, seem to diminish the memory of the shame; at least for the moment... When interviewed on exit from this 6 month program, over 300 "beneficiaries" made claim to noticing the difference, and freely linked their new found happiness and enthusiasm to this new and different way of looking forward for themselves... They declared themselves feeling "ENOUGH" for the first time in their lives... I make no statement relative to your recovery, nor to anyone else here at "Babble", only to those I personally was involved with interviewing; there is a record of our process... Our success with the 720 we interviewed was 83% remaining DRY, CLEAN and SOBER, for a period of 2 years after completing the program; 5 out of 6 stayed away from their primary addiction for at least the 2 years we kept records for... AA is 1 out of 7 and "Betty Ford" near Palm Springs is 1 in 20, and they use AA traditions and the "Big Book" exclusively... Our group formed a goal to overcome the dread and become "ENOUGH", as well as SOBER...> Which doesn't mean that I can't think to make better choices. I can definitely make better choices.
<<< You chose to accept me here at "Babble", and I am eternally grateful...> Hey, Rod. How's your Dad? More important, how are you?
<<< My Dad smoked for 49 years, till age 64, he's now 90... He has developed a nagging cough over the last 8 months... I am getting tests done on him to reduce the likely-hood of lung cancer... I have been messing with vitamin dosage and have started walking 10,000 paces on my $5.00 Wal-Mart pedometer... 10,000 paces can take a couple of hours, whereas jogging 4 miles a day used to take me only 40 to 50 minutes... I ruminate the whole time, "sort-of" multitasking my ongoing struggles... I seem to plan much better when I can walk/run and ruminate...
NEWS: I have a long time friend who is a Senior Athlete (Basketball) who has been working the scoring processes at the Summer Olympics from 1984 onward, but has turned 83 now, and for health reasons, will not be going to London... I have asked him to suggest me in his stead... I'll keep y'alls posted on that progress... My (US NAVY) Submarine was stationed in the Holy Loch in Scotland... It'd be a "hoot" to take a train ride mini-vacation up there again after all these years...AND, by all means my dear »(((Dinah)))», how are you and how is your family these days???
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