Re: I try to never do this, but.... » 10derheart

Posted by twinleaf on December 21, 2010, at 10:43:57

In reply to I try to never do this, but...., posted by 10derheart on December 19, 2010, at 21:52:28

I am so sorry to hear this. It's just heartbreaking, and mystifying. As a long-time poster, I can remember having the impression of a very strong, warm relationship between the two of you-what sounded like an extremely good fit... When you moved, it seemed as though he was very open to arranging things so that your therapeutic relationship could continue.
You may remember that I had something simiiar happen to me (posting as "Pfinstegg") in 2007. As I have slowly recovered from the rejection by my first analyst, I've had a chance to explore what may have happened with him. My "new" analyst feels that a combination of a close, intense relationship, which we definitely had, plus the pressure of dealing with pre-oedipal (mother-loss) issues were what drove him temporarily over the edge. He said that very early dyadic issues are particularly difficult for some therapists to deal with. The bottom line in his eyes always was that it was a counter-transference problem, and not in any way my fault. It actually took between two and three years for me to get over the terrible hurt, anger and guilt that I felt. But, with time and wonderful help from my oresent analyst, I really did recover and even get strnger. I know you will, too, but still, I'm so sorry you have to go through something so painful, Endings should never be like the one you had.

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