Posted by rskontos on October 31, 2010, at 0:56:33
In reply to Re: I wasn't sure what to do » wittgensteinz, posted by Dinah on October 30, 2010, at 23:23:58
> > It probably wouldn't do much for my feeling of ease/safety either. I don't tend to like shrugs of the shoulders or "I don't know"'s. Then again, maybe it is more real and honest than a defensive response.
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> I think it probably is. I like to think of him as more self assured, but he's probably just faking it like most of us are.
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> > Do you really think this is a calculated strategy of his to reduce your dependency on him? I have the feeling we, as clients, tend to attribute more cunning and strategy to our therapists than really exists (just my own feeling).
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> That's definitely my experience of him. Yet I also have the experience that he has a native feel for what I need at any given time. Maybe it's not a conscious decision on his part, but it might be an unconscious reaction to what he perceives in our relationship. Certainly it's a newish dynamic between us. Maybe the last year or two.
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> > Why were you so late? Is there something to read into that?
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> Only that I was very busy at work, and probably should have canceled altogether. I'd slept very little this past week, preparing for a deadline yesterday. I thought I'd be finished before our session so I didn't cancel, but I wasn't finished. I sent out some emails before I left for the session. Then stupidly passed the open parking spaces in the parking garage thinking I saw one closer. I had to leave the garage, drive around the corner, re-enter and try again. I was just way too tired to think straight, since I worked straight through the night.
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> > Witti
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> Thanks, Witti.
You know Dinah, I have coming to understand especially with my interactions in academia, that sometimes we, those with an ongoing therapy relationship do sometimes put more into actions of others than others do, especially those doing the actions.He said he was worried, I think he was. Maybe you are picking up on his feelings that it is time to reduce (unless this was your idea) and would rather it was your idea. I understand that.
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