Posted by Dinah on May 27, 2010, at 20:35:59
In reply to Re: My therapist doesn't want to let me go...Help!, posted by shelbyfude on May 27, 2010, at 20:10:27
I have to admit that I don't understand that way of thinking at all. I'm not in analysis, so maybe I"m missing something significant about couch laying.
I trust my therapist to the extent it's reasonable and appropriate to trust him. Trusting him to be more than he is would be foolish. Not trusting him to be what he has proved himself to be would be equally foolish. But there are things I don't like to do. The fact that I don't like to do them doesn't have to do with my trust of him. Part of the appropriate (in my opinion) boundaries of therapy is that we are able to decide our own actions. I can't see how it's any more unhealthy to choose not to lie down than it would be to lie down because she wanted you to. To subordinate your judgment to hers. To do something you don't wish to do to please her.
But that's me, and maybe someone who feels differently would have a different take on the subject.
I think I'm sort of bottom line. If you feel you're addressing important topics or feel that your functioning is improved by going, and the benefits you receive are greater than the costs you pay in terms of time and money, then it makes sense to keep going. If not, it makes sense to try stopping.
Would she refuse to take you back if you tested your wings a bit without her?
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