Posted by workinprogress on April 13, 2010, at 0:08:15
In reply to The hits keep coming, posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
TG-
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I wish I could say more to be helpful, but I don't know that I can... That stuff just hurts and is dang hard.
I think the video is there for those times when you can't conjure her up in your mind, when you really need to connect with her. This sounds like one of those times. Until now, she's been there and the connection's been solid (meaning she's a part of you). But, sometimes when we're under stress, the connection seems less present. So, I say now is just the time to watch it. And there will be other times and my guess is it'll be helpful every time- to bring her back to your core a bit. This is the way I use the voice memo my T gave me... I know it's not at all the same, but I think it might apply somewhat.
Keep us posted, we're here for you and sending you love.
> Now my next oldest brother may be dying. It's a long story and if I include too many details it may be possible to identify me, but he's been sick the last several years and now it looks like the last surgery he had, 3.5 years ago, is failing and we are pretty much out of options. I'll know more on Friday. He's 49.
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> I've been researching new therapists and I'll call the first two choices tomorrow and go from there. I really, really miss my T. Some of you may remember that she made a video for me before she retired. I haven't watched it yet, although I've been tempted in the last week. I'm afraid if I use it too soon, though, that it will lose its effectiveness when I *really* need it. Stupid, huh? If any of you can reframe that for me, I'd really appreciate it.
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> Thanks to all of you!
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> TG
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