Posted by emmanuel98 on April 7, 2010, at 20:21:57
In reply to Re: Dilemma in Therapy, posted by widget on April 7, 2010, at 18:35:29
I loved my T desperately and would tell him and he said that I didn't really love him because I didn't really know him. That love meant putting another's needs first and that's not what I wanted from him. I said I love you the way my daughter loves me and he said that's not love, it's dependence. That I need him more than he needs me. I found this very painful but ultimately true. I would not have been a good friend or lover to him, had he allowed it. I'd have wanted to bask in his attention and follow him around like a puppy. That's a kind of love, but a very immature love. Not a love between two equally placed adults.
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