Posted by ebo4ny on February 28, 2010, at 22:31:39
I cannot tell whether my therapist is being supportive or whether he is encouraging an erotic transference. He has said things to me like "It can never happen, but its extremely rare for me to meet people who think like I do(refering to me)." and "I don't think I'm the only guy out there that would give anything to be with a girl like you." Both of these comments were made with intensity that was unsettling(although that could be part of his technique, you know, how he makes a comment "hit home" and seem believable). On top of that he has made it clear that he thinks I am attractive (but stops short of saying that this necessarily means he is drawn to me).
He says that his form of therapy is ego-supportive and I will say that he has done a good job of that. But he knows that I'm suffering from a really powerful transference and it just seems mean.
Does anyone have any experience with this form of therapy? Am I full of my self in thinking these comments are manipulative at best, and sexually charged at worst? Or is this the type of therapy I signed up for?
Of course I have taken what he said out of context. In both situations I think he was trying to make me stop beating myself up about something.
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