Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 9, 2010, at 12:54:20
In reply to Re: Still Feel Betrayed By T » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2010, at 12:02:15
> Maybe he didn't do that because the boundaries are already so blurred. If he had reduced the fee, or let you carry a balance, it would be further blurring of the boundaries and led you to believe that he cared about you in ways other than a therapist cares about a client.
He explained why....long story.
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> In being so firm on this point, perhaps he is using this situation to make the boundaries absolutely clear. He is your therapist, he sees you as your therapist, and your relationship is a professional, not a personal one.It has been a personal one.
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> In the end, wouldn't it be a better thing for you to work towards engaging in a relationship that can be more mutual than the therapy relationship ever can be?I would give anything for that, but it hasn't happened......I am in school, occasionally go out on dates....etc. I would drop my t in a hot minute, if I could even at least find a (guy) for a friend.
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> I know it hurts. I understand how much it hurts. And the message of exactly where the boundaries lie would really really hurt me too.
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> I think the thing that is even worse was to allow you to spend so much money you really couldn't afford to see him all this time. Did he know how much his fees were eating away your capital?No, I never told him.
He drives a Lexus, wears cashmere, etc..........I don't believe for a minute that he couldn't have reduced his fee for three months; that is all I was asking.
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