Posted by annierose on December 28, 2009, at 17:40:15
In reply to T said I hurt her feelings!, posted by rnny on December 28, 2009, at 16:35:53
I do think she provided you with a good example how sometimes people say something not knowing how other people take the comment to heart.
She let you know that her hurt feelings were not the motivation for talking about this with you - rather - using the interaction as a "teachable moment". I agree with her that your comment was not the best choice of words ... especially using the word "stupid". In effect, you said she was stupid. I think your therapist was clear why she brought up the conversation today ... not to make you feel bad, but to bring to light casual comments you might make that could make someone else feel badly.
And yes, my therapist would help me in the same way.
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