Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2009, at 9:00:50
In reply to Worried about my T, posted by Verloren on December 23, 2009, at 12:53:21
It has happened to me with my therapist, and with others. I have OCD, so occasionally I get thoughts like that.
I can't say I've never checked to make sure over the years. I have found excuses to make sure my therapist is alive and well. I also still briefly wonder if my therapist is involved whenever some traffic accident with injuries is reported on the news.
But part of how I handle my fears is to externalize them a bit. I try to think of it as "I am having these thoughts that my therapist is not ok, and urges to check on him." Instead of "I am afraid something's happened to my therapist." Thinking of them as intrusive thoughts and fears helps me separate enough from them to insert some logical thoughts in there. I don't know if that would be helpful for you, but it has been helpful for me.
Also, I don't know if this holds true for you, but for me I've learned that I tend to have these thoughts more often when I'm not feeling secure in the therapeutic relationship. When I fear being abandoned, I tend to cling and worry. For example, this time of year is a time when many therapy clients are temporarily abandoned while therapists go on holiday. My brain would kind of latch onto that, and think of all the ways I could be abandoned, then I'd get those fears.
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