Posted by emmanuel98 on December 22, 2009, at 22:17:54
In reply to Re: Sharing my story (Very Long Post) » workinprogress, posted by Verloren on December 22, 2009, at 21:44:55
> How did things work out after you told your T about your feelings. Did they lessen?
I told my T fairly early in therapy. I was embarrassed and cautious, saying things like, I care a lot what you think of me. He was very experienced and understood fairly well what I was going through. I've seen him for five years and we've talked about this quite a lot over that time. It was hard to talk about and hard to feel so much emotion for him. But it taught me a lot about myself. Try your T out. Tell her you think a lot about her between sessions to start with. If she's experienced with transference, she will understand immediately and will not reject or embarrass you.
If she does reject or embarrass you, or if she violates boundaries, then she is a bad T and you should dump her.
Talking about it doesn't make the feelings go away exactly. But it does make them manageable. It becomes a subject for discussion, not for shame and denial and that's a real growth experience.
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