Posted by workinprogress on November 18, 2009, at 0:34:09
In reply to Re: Magic... » pegasus, posted by gobbledygook on November 17, 2009, at 12:06:11
It's pretty cool stuff, what goes on in those four walls when things are clicking. And, even when it doesn't feel like it's clicking- if you can talk about it and look at it and figure it out- I think that's magic too.
I told my T last session that I thought we've worked magic in there. That it wasn't her. And it wasn't me. It was the two of us together. We fit, it works, it's a good combo- we're a good combo. She agreed, said it doesn't happen all that often, but when it does it's good.
I think that's why it's so important to trust your gut and look for a therapist you relate to. They can be "the best therapist in the world" but if you don't click, no magic. If you do... who knows what can happen. I know I've grown tremendously because of the connection I have with my T- it's the single most important factor, the fact that I feel connected to her. Relatively immeasurable.
And Peg... I love your example of "I know" "I know" "I know"- I tried it on for size in my head with my T and I. I haven't had that experience, but I could totally feel that magic from your perspective- thanks so much for sharing.
And Ava- no problem on the thread. Just sharing my thoughts, thanks for adding to the thread- I appreciate it. Such lovely stories from all of you. And I know I didn't name everyone, sorry- it's late and I'm sleep deprived...
xo
WIP> > Oh, yeah, magic is what it is alright. I could point to several moments that felt really special, and magical. But I think the big magic was something I only realized completely in retrospect. It built up gradually over time, and eventually I could recognize that I was different and at the same time more truly myself than ever. I was so much freer and happier. Hard times came along, and I handled them fairly well. My life was more aligned with my love, and I could see the parts that still rubbed with a new, more helpful perspective. Truly magic.
> >
> > The moments of magic were those that revealed the attunement of the relationship, or my progress. Like this conversation:
> >
> > (I say some statement about myself)
> > T: I know
> > me: I know (smile)
> > T: I know (smile)
> >
> > Sounds silly, but it felt great.
> >
> > peg
>
> You said it so well, Peg. Magic is exactly what I've been experiencing with my new therapist. I would not have believed it if I hadn't
> experienced it myself...so perfect and exquisite!! The "knowing" and the connection between us when we're truly present and in the
> moment together creates this magic. It seems to happen when I open myself up to feel his support, acceptance, caring, respect, trust
> and love. He is a rare compassionate human being who truly cares.
>
> I'm noticing a different self slowly emerging, which feels strange but wonderful at the same time. Wonderful and freer, because what's
> emerging feels like my true self. I haven't felt this good in a long time -- precious moments of clarity, well-being, and feeling centered.
> I hope the magic I feel with my therapist continues to grow and evolves into magic that I can create by myself...for myself.
>
> Thanks for the lovely thread, workinprogress.
>
> Ava
>
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