Posted by antigua3 on August 27, 2009, at 6:12:29
In reply to Re: How much of our pain can our Ts tolerate? » antigua3, posted by rskontos on August 27, 2009, at 0:00:28
It's intersting that you say he is grief stricken by what you say, but he is also practices blank slate. Is he different for different types of things you tell him?
I know you're suffering. I hope you can learn to trust him and let those feelings, and dreams, out. You will feel so much better. Just giving voice to them is very freeing.
I'm sorry you're having such a bad time. Absences are so difficult--the anxiety about them leaving, the leaving itself, pretending we're OK while they're gone and then falling apart when they get back, when we thought we'd done pretty well without them.
Maybe you could just focus on the abandonment issues first? They seem to be a real trigger for you.
Sending you warm thoughts. Take care of yourself, too.
antigua
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