Posted by Dinah on August 23, 2009, at 8:56:15
In reply to What good does calling a T do? (si trigger), posted by moonshadow on August 22, 2009, at 15:01:55
I don't know that it will always be of immediate help. I think my therapist used to get frustrated and angry that I would call him and self injure anyway. He never pulled my calling privileges, but I know he didn't like it.
However, as my relationship with my therapist grew, I did find it more helpful. His voice would ground me, and my desire not to upset him would encourage me to find other alternatives. And eventually therapy did help, by opening the door so that I could use words instead of actions. I don't think I can explain it better than that. But it gave a voice to all of me, so that I didn't have to use other methods to "speak".
How long have you been seeing this therapist? If she asked you to call before injuring yourself, I think you should. Whether it will do any good or not, I don't know. But therapy is about working through these things in the ways therapist and client agree on, right?
At this point, I haven't self injured in a while. Sometimes calling my therapist is very very useful. Sometimes I'd be better off doing other things to calm me. I don't always guess the best solution for me. But I'm getting better at it.
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