Posted by antigua3 on July 21, 2009, at 15:37:41
In reply to Re: to terminate or keep going » antigua3, posted by deerock on July 21, 2009, at 13:41:52
I always worried about getting thrown out, too, but my pdoc promised from the beginning that he wouldn't abandon me and I chose to believe him, despite the fear.
I can't tell you how many times I started a session with "Are you going to throw me out now?" thinking I had finally crossed some imaginary line that would force him to do this, that I had finally said something vicious or horrible enough. He patiently replied that my thinking wasn't logical, based on the promise he had made.
What really changed my behavior, though, is some research into negative transference and how damaging it can be to the therapeutic relationship and how hard it is to treat. That scared me straight so to speak, and I could see what I had been doing since I first started seeing him.
good luck,
antigua
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