Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2009, at 14:33:21
In reply to another therapist bites the dust...., posted by LibraryGirl on July 19, 2009, at 10:36:52
I don't see that this needs to be the end. You had a bad session. You are angry with her, and perhaps she is angry (or as my therapist says "frustrated") with you. But relationships are about working on this stuff together.
She really can't read your mind. *My* therapist, after all these years, usually is dead wrong when he tries to read my mind, and he generally won't even try.
We work a lot on what I call with my son "using my words". I really have a hard time communicating when I'm upset and he works patiently (usually) with me to put into words why I'm angry.
You could start with fortyfive minutes late. Even if she stayed late to see you at a different time, it would have been polite of her to let you know she was running late. Maybe even especially then, since you might be worried that you had the wrong time or she had forgotten. My therapist's sessions nearly always run from ten after till the hour. I'm surprised if he brings me back before ten after. I pay no attention at a quarter after. But if it stretches to twenty minutes after, I get annoyed. By half past, I'm ready to walk out. It hasn't happened often, and I do think he'd be anxious enough to contact me if he's going to be later than twenty after.
It sounds as if she wants to work this out with you. It could be good practice for real life, where people are generally bad at mind reading too.
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