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would this be inappropriate?

Posted by catlady on July 8, 2009, at 19:49:06

I have been working with a new therapist for almost two years. I really like her. We are both around the same age. I am 46 and she is around 44. It was hard at first getting used to that because sometimes I feel inferior to her because she is younger and seems to have her life together and also all the other therapists I had were like mother figures. Anyway we have come a long way and got a good thing going.

What I was wondering is if you guys think it would be OK to ask her why she isn't married. I'm not married either for a lot of reasons such as low self esteem, trauma issues, social anxiety etc. I think if I knew I could relate to her better. Also to be honest I am wondering for my own curiosity because to me she seems like she has it all together. She is pretty, smart, thin, friendly, warm etc.

I don't want to invade her personal boundaries though. I know all about therapy boundaries. I don't feel comfortable with people asking me why I am not married, so I don't think she would like it either but I really would like to know especially because that is something we were talking about last week. I am also kind of afraid of her response maybe because she would say that is personal or something and then I would feel ashamed or bothered for asking her.

I saw her today and wanted to ask her but I didn't because I have a lot of other things going on, but I am still wondering if I should ask her or not.

Please let me know what you think.




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