Posted by HyperFocus on June 21, 2009, at 22:40:27
In reply to Re: My brother, posted by surfergirl on June 20, 2009, at 15:34:02
Thanks a lot. I just have to not take it to fast and let him reach out at his own pace. Yeah separate personalities created an initial rift between us, but that's just part of growing up I guess. But I wasn't able to look past my initial displeasure with him - which was a real tragedy because a strong relationship between us would have made us mere resilient against the stresses of growing up in our house. But like you say I just have to move on.
> Hi HyperFocus,
> It really seams like you are making honest & caring effort to repair & establish a relationship with your younger brother. I have 2 teen age boys, with very different personalities & styles that are 6 years apart. They bicker & criticize each other every day. They both are unhappy with each other. I try to maintain peace & civility (thanks Dr. Bob :)) in our home but it is tough. I hope when they are adults they will be friends.
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> I really applaud your efforts. Don't be hard on yourself for the past but do your best to move on in building this relationship. It might take time. I think you are right in some ways about "the strong family base" making people resilient, but some of that comes just from will & desire too, as well as having positive, good friends.
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> hang in there,
> surfergirl
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