Posted by raisinb on May 3, 2009, at 16:34:15
In reply to Re: Has therapy made you happier? » SLS, posted by Tabitha on May 1, 2009, at 1:42:17
"Like it would just remove the bad parts of me, and the person left would be happy."
This resonated with me. I started therapy with just the same assumption, though I didn't fully know it. Finally I realized that wanting to get rid of the "bad" parts of me was itself the problem. I had to hear what they were saying and stop thinking of them as "bad." This led to a new level of self-love. Paradoxically, I think a lot of the change in therapy is realizing you don't need to--or that you're going to--change that much. And that in itself is a huge change.
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