Posted by Annierose on March 3, 2009, at 12:04:03
This incident has upset me more than I thought it would. My therapists office is located in a non-descript office building --- fairly straightforward. There is one hallway with offices on either side with the elevator bank in the middle with bathrooms on either side.
Today as Im walking to her office, I notice my t is standing outside her office talking to another person. The other person was standing directly in front of her office chatting away - - - - - blah blah blah. I got the impression he was either moving out or in the building but they knew each other. The DUDE was a fairly big gregarious type of person.
Where to go? What do to? This guy is standing in front of her office???
My therapist turns around and sees me as I approach her office. I stop by the elevator bank (next to my ts office) and take a drink of water --- thinking my t will stop this conversation at once so DUDE will depart and disappear. No such luck. He keeps yapping. I cant drink any more water so then I stand my the entrance to the bathroom. It was locked but at least I was now out of sight.
The DUDE asks my t So how is your practice? I am DYING. She responds, good. Eventually this water cooler dribble stops and as fate would have it, my t goes to the bathroom and sees me hiding outside the door. She asks me if I would like the key and I storm pass her No, thats not why I was standing here.
When my session began I was so ANGRY. Finally I shout AWKWARD!. She asks, Why didnt you go to the waiting room? Me, He was standing in front of the door. T, He would have moved. Me, F*ck you.
I let her know that she didnt take care of me. She should have tried to end the conversation once she saw me walking down the hallway, as in, I have a client due any minute, we can talk later. Its not that she prolonged the conversation by asking him questions, she didnt, but she left me standing there feeling pretty stupid!
The session went downhill fairly quickly. I guess saying f*ck you isnt exactly a kind thing to say. But how could she NOT get that this was an awkward situation?? Annie, there is no shame in coming to see a therapist.
I feel completely misunderstood.
Would you have been able to tell Mr. Dube to move out of the way so you could get in the office of the person that is standing next to you?
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