Posted by garnet71 on February 24, 2009, at 18:05:07
In reply to Re: I am hopeless, helpless, and want to die. » backseatdriver, posted by SLS on February 24, 2009, at 13:32:01
I like the way your describe the powers of being empathic as being used as a tool for manipulation, and just as amazing to me is that they are attracted to certain people because they possess the same ability. It makes sense.
- Scott
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Scott, I have to point out--because its very important--that narcissists, on the far right of the scale, have no empathy. Zero. They are sociopaths; the difference being a sociopath is more sadistic, among other things. Some are, however, often highly intelligent and can fake empathy. In emotionally manipulating a person, they develop skills--so strongly--that seem like empathy in order to manipulate you, because feeding off another is life to them. They may develop skills to morph into someone who is the mirror of the person they are manipulating (ex. they even mimic your body language, adopt your values, likes and dislikes), and can easily become exactly, I mean exactly, what you want or need in a person (could be doctor, therapist, friend, boyfriend). They are astute chameleons, and somehow through strong instinctual antennas, can develop a posture that fills some type of void in another. In a nutshell, they are experts at finding that void and becoming it.
They are very attracted to, not necessarily sexually, to those with heightened empathy because they have none and it makes them feel alive; meanwhile, they loathe those who can so strongly 'feel'; they loathe that strong life spirit--because it represents something they do not have; their anger is manifested this way, in part. In the end, they are destructive to your soul; they suck the life out of you. Just like a vampire, they cannot survive without feeding off you. In protracted cases, your spirit is slowly sucked right out of you.
Scott, how did you know your therapists were narcissists? Teachers, doctors, and the military are prime fields for pathological people, so I'm not surprised at all.
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