Posted by raisinb on February 4, 2009, at 11:29:26
In reply to Re: Differentiating sadness, posted by Sigismund on February 4, 2009, at 1:46:36
Big crises often have paradoxical effects on me. A few years ago I totaled a car I accidentally had let the insurance lapse on. I still had about 20,000 left to pay on it and the repairs would've cost 10.
This doesn't compare to the losses you're experiencing at all. But I remember that I felt extremely calm afterwards--as if it had clarified for me who I was and what was truly important to me. I almost felt lucky that it had happened.
Of course, that was just a car--an expensive one, but not a comparable thing to a best friend and a deeply loved pet and a niece. But I've read about that paradoxical response to crisis in books--Marsha Linehan, in particular--and I wonder if it's a common human phenomenon.
I hope you're still doing okay.
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