Posted by Wittgensteinz on December 30, 2008, at 17:32:53
In reply to Re: therapist no showed witti, posted by deerock on December 30, 2008, at 16:19:59
I think I might have jumped to conclusions - I'm glad she was honest but I think if I'd been told those reasons I would feel unable to be 'angry' about it - I'd feel guilty as she was 'ill'. I'm glad she apologised to you.
Why would you love to let her go, to terminate... besides the feelings that arose from her absence the last two Fridays - are there other reasons that come to mind?
Some months ago something came up between my therapist (also an analyst) and I and at the time I had to think whether it could continue to work. To some extent it still isn't wholly resolved but in the grand scheme of things, there was too much to be lost not to continue - perhaps these ruptures are an important part of therapy - they provide us opportunities to look at things we might not otherwise have faced. It was something quite different from an absence and I don't know how that would have made me feel. From my experience, any form of rupture or disturbance can take quite some time to work past but it is possible to work past them (as long as the same mistake isn't repeated).
Termination is not an easy thing to consider after so many sessions with someone. I'm sorry you have this dilemma. I guess the best thing is to sit on it for a while - see how this affects the relationship, whether it causes disruption or opens up new things for you.
Best of luck,
Witti
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