Posted by rskontos on December 23, 2008, at 12:27:52
In reply to Isolation, loneliness, and one-sided friendships, posted by Racer on December 23, 2008, at 11:36:08
Racer,
I struggle with this too. I mean the social thing. I have a husband and children but my H is a loner so I have to remind him sometimes that I need him to include me.
But as women we need other women. Men just don't always relate to us. But as women we need men too. So I guess perhaps you need both.
Since you don't work, perhaps you need to join either a club, take up a hobby or take a class. And then there is volunteering or being an intern somewhere.
All of these would be hard for me. But I am going to try to encourage you to think about trying one of these.
I just recently accepted a job for the money but also for the social interaction. It is hard for me. I dissociated during the interview. But I know it is good for me to be out in the world in order to heal.
So maybe some of this helps you find a way to connect with the world in order to start build a network of people. Just a small one at first that will later add up to create a bigger one.
Maybe I am all wrong but I want to help.
I just think volunteering is probably the best way to get around people. You really just need one friend first then build on that.
I am probably the last one to answer you but I wanted to.
I don't have many close friends, I don't let them in, but I can get people talking when I am around them.
I care about you struggling though. I am sorry you feel so bad.
Maybe I helped. I hope so. Take care.
As I told Sid, This season to be jolly will thankfully be over soon and the sun will shine again and we can go back to being not so depressed I hope.
rsk
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