Posted by Annierose on November 24, 2008, at 16:46:13
In reply to The L word with T?, posted by JayMac on November 22, 2008, at 12:31:16
I've been in a psychodynamic based therapy for 5 years (@ 3 times a week) and I have never told my therapist that I love her. I've read this thread and have been thinking why it doesn't feel like it is something I would/could ever do.
And it boils down to this. I love my therapist as my therapist. If we were to meet under different life circumstances, let's say neighbors, I think we would be friendly with one another, but I don't think we would be "friends". I see us as completely different types of people. I'm more of the Bette Midler type (without the talent) louder than most, generally an open book, says what's on my mind and my therapist is more Mary Tyler Moore ... very even keeled temperment, always warm and kind and dare I say "nice". People's first impression of me would be "fun" "loud" ... never "nice" ... even though I am a nice person.
Over my life, I have seen three different therapists. Only my current t for a long term therapy because I do have deep, caring feelings for and I believe she is trustworthy. When I read how you feel and others on this thread, I think what they feel is something different than I feel (although I can't be sure). I'm not sure I would like my t outside the outside ... she's too nice and I have a hard time trusting nice.
Jaymac - I think LOVE is a wonderful feeling to share with your therapist. She will receive it warmly. The gift of the heart is the very best kind to share. Good Luck
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