Posted by Dinah on October 10, 2008, at 17:11:57
In reply to Re: My vomit phobia, posted by FindingMyDesire on October 9, 2008, at 23:41:39
You know what's great? I found out today that he really doesn't think I'm terrible. He says it's no different from someone who faints at the sight of blood. You can't just expect them to behave better because it's the right thing to do, because it isn't really under their control.
He said it isn't necessary that I find a way to be useful in vomit situations. I just need to try to make sure whoever needs help gets it. It doesn't have to be from me directly. And if I metaphorically pass out (in the form of becoming nonfunctional) instead, it didn't mean I was a terrible selfish person.
So maybe I've been projecting my own feelings onto him all these years. He doesn't really *understand* and he admits that. But he doesn't think badly of me or feel sorry for my husband.
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