Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 7, 2008, at 3:20:58
In reply to Re: How do you feel about Therapist Disclosing?, posted by Looney Tunes on October 6, 2008, at 16:30:16
LT,
I can see why this could be distressing/upsetting for you. I wonder whether your T is doing it for a therapeutic reason or not - I think you do just need to ask him this and explain how it makes you feel. I think it could open up something very beneficial to you both.
I'm sorry this is happening - I very much doubt he is meaning to hurt you in this way.
As for my T - I think he discloses a lot but the things he shares are usually triggered by a comment or question from me. Only occasionally will he share something unprompted and it usually has a clear relevance to the topic. I quite like the disclosure because it makes me feel reassured/safe with him - safe in the knowledge that he is in good health and happy - for me that's important. Every now and again he will safe something that clearly illustrates his own death anxiety and that makes me feel uncomfortable. He's uncomfortable with his age - he finds himself very old - at one point I remarked something like "those are your words not mine" when he included a comment about his age in one of his interpretations, and he admitted that they were.
Hope you're able to talk through this issue with your T.
Witti
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