Posted by DAisym on October 3, 2008, at 19:29:03
In reply to Re: I talked today to my therapist - dinah » DAisym, posted by seldomseen on October 3, 2008, at 19:18:51
Letting them down how?
I think my therapist would say he expects all of this - he has this speech about how therapy is a spiral and we go around and around things over and over again.
And, I think we tend to think of therapy as something we go to and get "fixed." The reality is, it helps us know who we are and how we best cope with things. But life throws curve balls and we all need support to handle them. And during really intense situations, human beings - those in and those out if therapy - revert to old coping mechanisms that were ingrained so long ago. I think "we" -- those of us who have had some therapy, tend to recognize that we are using old coping/ineffectual coping methods faster. So we can change things up faster.
Therapy helps me know myself - even the bad parts. My therapist isn't disappointed that those parts don't disappear; in fact, he'd like me to not be so harsh with myself.
I've asked time and again about disappointing him, or him hating me, or being disgusted, etc. etc. He tells me that it gets hard for him when I don't talk to him but even then he knows I'm trying.
I highly doubt your therapist is disappointed in you.
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