Posted by onceupon on September 30, 2008, at 10:29:58
In reply to What lurks underneath idealization?, posted by lucie lu on September 29, 2008, at 18:33:07
I think I defensively idealize my therapist. Even though I sometimes feel like I'm dying with curiosity about what her inner life is like, including her life with her family, I don't really ask about it. I know she wouldn't necessarily tell me much, but I also don't know how much I really want to know. Right now it's easier for me to idealize her, because it allows me to hold onto the fantasy of receiving some kind of perfect mothering from her.
Do I realize the somewhat screwed up nature of this? Yes. But not enough yet to do something about it. So I guess for me, idealization covers up my unwillingness to let go of that fantasy. Hope that makes sense.
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