Posted by Nadezda on September 28, 2008, at 10:27:36
In reply to Re: My T is going to be out another 2 weeks » muffled, posted by TherapyGirl on September 28, 2008, at 8:53:37
Hi, Therapygirl.
I can really understand your anger and hurt at your T. She must have both real life and internal issues to cause her to act so abruptly and with apparent disregard for her patients' needs. Under the circumstances (her initial abrupt departure with little notice and her second, abrupt delay in her return), she really needed to do more to reassure you and others, and to provide a referral, if you needed another T to get through the original break or, now, in the prolongation.
I do think maybe what you need to do is be more assertive in your own behalf. She left no referral-- but you need someone to talk to ASAP. And you aren't even secure that she'll be back at the end of the two weeks-- even more reason to ask, directly, for a referral, for next few weeks. I also think a phone session or two would be in order. If your T isn't in the emotional condition to do that, there could be a deeper problem that might last. Then I would be very concerned for your well being. I don't mean to say that she won't be fine-- but I do think the phone sessions, which my and other Ts do regularly, would help you through this time.
Even though it's hard to act-- maybe to "impose" on your T's time-- you definitely both deserve and need to do something to take care of yourself.
Can't you drop her a note or send an email asking for the sessions or the referral (or both)? And request that she get back to you right away. If she is incommunicado, that is really a problem that may need to be addressed further.
Try not to let things drift into hopelessness and passivity, though, Therapygirl; I really think you can do a lot to make this bearable. It's just great, by the way, that you handled such a long, unanticipated break so well. I don't think anyone should be disappointed in you-- or expect you to do more. It's a real accomplishment in itself.
Nadezda
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