Posted by sassyfrancesca on September 16, 2008, at 8:52:51
In reply to Have you ever told your therapist... (trigger), posted by DAisym on September 15, 2008, at 21:15:13
> ..."I hate you!" ??? My t asked me if I hated him. I said yes, but it was because of something he had done and said.
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> I felt like a teenager -- "Go away! Please don't leave me!"
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> He told me that I had to remember, I had to know what happened way back when and I had to hold and honor the pain of my younger parts. And he said he had to know with me - that telling was the right thing to do so I'm not alone anymore. And then he looked me straight in the eye and said, "and you have to stay alive. I can't let you give up, as much as you want to kill off all this pain."This is good.
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> So I sobbed and told him I hated him for that. He said fine, he could take my anger. But he looked so sad.
> That was last Thursday. We've talked everyday since. He hasn't pulled back at all. But I feel like a heel for saying it.Trust me, he understands your feelings.
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> If you've said it, what did your therapist say or do? If you wanted to and didn't say it, did you say something else instead?
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> Have I ever said that I think Therapy is really hard work?yes, it is, but the most important work you will ever do.
My situation is that my t has led me on (knowing I fell in love with him), and I am veery angry about that; eventually, I will probably tell him.
I usually tell him when he has upset me or made me feel angry. He likes "authentic."
Hugs, Sassy
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