Posted by wishingstar on August 17, 2008, at 11:24:15
In reply to Re: Finding a T - FRUSTRATED » wishingstar, posted by no_rose_garden on August 13, 2008, at 19:48:15
I'm sorry for taking so long to respond... I've been in sort of a difficult place the last few days and hadnt even responded to my own thread. Oops. Anyway, it doesnt seem stupid and trivial at all. I found my first T on my own at age 18 and picked her randomly off some online directory somewhere. She was renting office space in one room inside a fertility clinic! (Believe it or not, this person is the wonderful "old T" I've been posting about here... I got lucky.) But it's not stupid at all to be confused or anxious about finding a T... a T is a person you (hopefully) really show your inner self and vulnerabilities to... and to pick a person for that out of a phone book? It's really weird, when you think about it. It sometimes takes a long time to find the right T. If you meet several on the list you have and none feel right, dont feel like you're doing it wrong or being too picky.. you're not! Keep looking until you find someone you think you can work with and connect with. It stinks to spend money on all the consultation fees but in the long run, it's not worth it if you end up with a T you dont really click with just to save a few fees. I've seen probably a dozen Ts in my life, some for only one-two sessions, some for longer.. and there is still one who sticks out in my mind as the best for me by far. It doesnt mean shes necessarily the most "talented" or trained, but we clicked and it works for me. You're not doing anything wrong. :)
I'm sorry you feel like not a lot of people respond when you post. I've felt that way here a lot in the past too.. For me, I think it's a mix of personal insecurities and also the fact that some people on here are closer friends and have met in real life, so I'm a little left out of that connection. It is a crappy feeling to feel ignored though. Feel free to babblemail me if you ever want to talk or need someone to listen.. I dont mind at all.
Hang in there. :)
> Thank you so much wishingstar...it probably seems stupid and trivial, but i guess i just don't what to do and I try, but don't seem to do things right.
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> I'm glad you posted...for some reason, it seems like whenever i write something i don't get any/many responses :(
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