Posted by Dinah on August 6, 2008, at 13:49:51
In reply to Re: Talked to him about everything » Dinah, posted by Lucie Lu on August 6, 2008, at 13:31:46
You are right. I do know how fortunate I am. However much work and time I've put into the relationship, I know I'm still fortunate. Not all therapists would have responded the way mine has.
I am reluctant to share it, because out of context it could be misconstrued, but he has referred to the relationship between us as love on a few occasions. He trusts me to understand what he means by that. I do know what he means by that, and won't build it into anything it's not. Of course, I freely admit to loving him. And he understands what I mean by that, and doesn't read anything into it that it's not. Even my husband is aware of it, and understands it in context.
I am very very fortunate to have a loving relationship with my therapist.
I know we have different definitions of trust. Mine is based more on objective outcome I guess. He thinks mine is unrealistic, and I just don't understand his definition at all.
I do trust him to never hurt me on purpose. I do trust him to be very conflicted about hurting me at all. I do trust that it would matter a lot to him to make a decision that would hurt me. If that's the trust he wants, he has it.
I just don't trust that he *won't* hurt me, even if he might hate to do it.
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